You know what hurts the most? To see so many people in love but not together, and so many people in a relationship and not in love. Let’s face it so many of us hide behind our true feelings. And why? The answer is simple. Love makes you weak and powerful both at the same time. It’s a feeling that is both scary and exciting. Love can be seen as an anchor and, depending on the circumstances, it can either hold you in place or completely drag you down. Dalai Lama said that “the need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence”. So we, instead of acknowledging it, decide to hide behind the truth and express something more common in our times. Drake, said it best; ‘we live in a generation of not being in love and not being together, but we sure make it feel like we are together because we are too scared to see each other with somebody else.’ So why are we so frightened to be honest about how we really feel? Why do we run away from something that is so rare and real? I know that I am not the only hopeless romantic stuck in a hookup generation.
I mentioned all the things above because the main theme of Valentine’s Day is love. Most people have different interpretations of this celebrated day. I also tend to have a slightly different thought on it. The expression of love is not necessarily shown through buying expensive jewelry, chocolates or flowers. It’s not about eating at fancy restaurants or going on expensive trips. It should be about celebrating the love we have for someone and not necessarily a partner. We should show the love to the ones close to our heart, the ones that mean so much to us. The ones we don’t want to lose in our lives. People that give you shivers in your whole body when they touch you. People that light up your entire world when they smile. People that make you completely lose your thoughts when you look too deep into their eyes. People that we are comfortable with and we can laugh and be ourselves with.
My advice is to tell that girl or guy you have been head over heels for how much they mean to you. I am pretty sure each one of us has that one very special person in our lives. Don’t wait for the perfect time. Take that time and make it perfect. If we wait for when we are going to be ready, we might be waiting our whole lives. Stop focusing on what could go wrong and think about all the things that could go right. Take Valentine’s Day as an excuse to express your love to your significant other.
I know how it works. We all play games. We try to be mysterious. We wait to reply to someone at least 30 minutes after we received the text because we do not want to look desperate. We try to be a bit distant to intrigue the other person so that they don’t lose interest in us. It is so complex, and I wish our lives were easy and straight forward, but they are not and that’s the truth.
Let’s be honest. Just let people know you want them, you need them. Tell them how they make you feel. We are young, and we are just human. We are not as in control of our lives as we think we are. Say what you mean before it is too late. Why not take Valentine’s Day as an excuse to let your feelings loose in this world full of fake appearances? Take this day and dedicate it to someone that truly makes you happy. It might end up making both people very happy if you just take the chance.
Text by Maria-Alexandra Pripiș
Picture research by Donna Darafshian; featured image from benlamberty.com.